“No matter what I do, I can’t shake the feeling that there’s something wrong with me.”
I hear some variation of this sentiment regularly in my consulting room, and while the person sitting in front of me is unique in their life story, I am intimately familiar with this despair, personally and professionally.
It can be profoundly painful to achieve all the external markers of success, to pursue our ambitions with determination, only to be left with an enduring sense that something is broken within us—that we are somehow defective, inadequate, or broken.
Feeling like you are too much and feeling like you are not enough are the opposite sides of the same coin. That coin is the worthiness wound™.
Throughout my career as a psychotherapist, I’ve devoted myself to understanding this psychological phenomenon that I have conceptualized called "the worthiness wound." My exploration began with trying to make sense of my own inner struggles, but it expanded into helping countless others who feel similarly.
Soon, all of my thoughts will be in one place, a free ebook where we’ll explore this deep, often unspoken struggle—the pervasive feeling that no matter what we achieve, we are never truly "enough."
Through a blend of psychological insights and real-life examples, this guide will take you on a journey of understanding how this wound develops, how it manifests in our lives, and most importantly, how we can begin to heal it.