Couples Counseling
Depth-oriented couples therapy for relationships that feel stuck, disconnected, or difficult to navigate.
For when staying connected feels harder than it should.
You love each other.
That part isn't really in question. What brings you here is something more specific — a pattern you keep returning to, a wall you keep hitting, a distance that grows even when you're trying to close it. You've had the same fight enough times to know how it ends. And yet something in both of you keeps reaching toward the possibility of something better.
That reaching matters. It's where the work begins.
Most couples arrive in therapy having already tried to fix things on their own. You've talked, you've compromised, you've read the books on communication. And still, something isn't shifting.
That’s often because the argument about dishes, money, sex, or how much time you spend together is carrying something larger: two people bringing their own histories, fears, expectations, and ways of protecting themselves into the relationship.
When we can understand what's happening beneath the surface, we create room for something more honest, more spacious, and more genuinely your own to emerge.
I have experience working with couples navigating:
Growing distance, disconnection, or a sense of living parallel lives
Difficulty feeling heard, understood, or emotionally safe with one another
Ruptures of trust, including emotional affairs, infidelity, or patterns of betrayal
Intimacy difficulties — emotional, physical, or both
High conflict and recurring patterns of misunderstanding, defensiveness, or feeling stuck
Difficulties navigating multicultural dynamics, including differences in values, family expectations, communication, or cultural identity
Differing needs around closeness, independence, and dependency
Major life transitions, including parenthood, career changes, relocation, or loss
Premarital work and conscious relationship building
Questions about whether to stay together or separate — explored with care and without pressure
Sexual concerns and evolving desires within long-term partnership
WHAT TO EXPECT
Couples rarely get stuck because they don't know how to communicate. More often, each person is responding to something that feels important, vulnerable, or threatening beneath the immediate disagreement.
One partner pursues while the other withdraws. One asks for reassurance while the other experiences the request as criticism. One wants more closeness while the other needs more space. Over time, these dynamics can become so familiar that they begin to feel like the relationship itself.
Couples therapy offers a place to slow these difficult dynamics down and address what is happening between you, not simply who started the argument or how to communicate more effectively, but what each of you is bringing to the relationship and what keeps the two of you caught in the same cycle.
Together, we'll take a closer look at the ways you relate to one another that may be contributing to frustration or disconnection. My role is to help you and your partner make sense of what's happening beneath the surface, including what may be communicated through silence, conflict, distance, or withdrawal, and to create space for a more thoughtful, meaningful way of relating.
We'll pay attention to what happens in the room between the two of you — including moments of conflict, defensiveness, tenderness, or misunderstanding — and work toward permanently addressing these dynamics rather than simply trying to manage them.
My goal isn't to make your relationship look a certain way. What matters most is whether the relationship works for you… both of you. Through a deeper understanding of yourselves and one another, we'll work toward making more conscious choices about how you want to be together.
Relationships don't all look the same
I work with couples and partners across a range of relationship structures and identities. My work is LGBTQIA+ affirming, poly-friendly, and attentive to the cultural, social, and economic contexts that shape how people experience relationships.
I also welcome non-romantic partners including co-founders, creative collaborators, and long-time friends, when the relationship itself is where the difficulty lies.
01 Feel it Out
Once you complete the form below, I'll reach out to schedule a free 15–20 minute consultation call. One or both of you are welcome on this call. It's a chance to tell me a little about what's bringing you in, ask questions, and get a sense of whether my approach feels like the right fit.
02 Get started
Our initial 50-minute session is a space for all of us to get to know each other. We'll talk about what each of you hopes will be different through therapy, begin to get a sense of each partner's inner world, and start to map the relational patterns at play. We'll also agree on a fee, session frequency, and a consistent meeting time.
03 Dive In
Couples work unfolds gradually and thoughtfully. If we choose to continue, we'll enter into a committed process of meeting regularly — exploring not just the relationship, but each person within it. Over time, we'll work toward a deeper understanding of yourselves, one another, and the patterns that shape your relationship.
If you are interested in working together, please click the button below to complete the contact form and I will be in touch:
FAQ
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The first session is an opportunity for me to understand what has brought you in, how each of you experiences the relationship, and what you hope might be different through therapy. We'll begin to explore some of the patterns between you and what may be contributing to the difficulties you're experiencing. It's also a chance for you to get a sense of what it feels like to work with me and decide whether we're a good fit.
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My role isn't to determine who is right or wrong or to take one partner's side. I work to understand both people and the dynamics that develop between them. That doesn't mean avoiding difficult truths or holding back when something important needs to be addressed. It means creating a space where both partners can be honest, heard, and understood.
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This is very common. You don't both have to arrive with the same level of motivation or even the same understanding of what's wrong. Part of our work can be understanding what makes therapy feel important to one partner and difficult, unnecessary, or uncertain to the other. My goal is not to convince either person to participate, but to create enough space for both of you to consider what you want from the relationship.
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Yes. Couples therapy doesn't have to be about keeping a relationship together at all costs. Sometimes the work is about understanding whether and how you want to continue the relationship; sometimes it's about making a thoughtful decision to separate. Either way, therapy can provide a space to slow things down, understand what's happening between you, and make decisions with greater clarity rather than from a place of reactivity or crisis.
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Yes. A breach of trust can profoundly affect a relationship, whether it involves infidelity, an emotional affair, secrecy, or another significant rupture. Therapy can provide a space to understand what happened, the impact it has had on each partner, and what would be required to determine whether trust can be rebuilt. This work takes time, and there isn't a predetermined outcome.
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Yes. Intimacy difficulties can take many forms, including feeling emotionally disconnected, difficulty being vulnerable with one another, differences in desire, changes in sexual connection, or feeling unwanted or misunderstood. These concerns can be difficult to talk about, but they often become an important part of understanding the relationship as a whole. We'll approach them with openness, curiosity, and without judgment.
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I work with couples and partners across a range of identities, relationship structures, and cultural backgrounds. My work is LGBTQIA+ affirming and poly-friendly, and I welcome relationships that don't fit a traditional model. Rather than imposing a particular idea of what a relationship should look like, we'll work to understand the dynamics between you and what each of you wants from the relationship.
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Couples therapy is generally most useful when we meet consistently, often once a week. Depending on what you're navigating, there may be times when meeting more frequently makes sense. We'll talk together about the frequency that best supports your goals and circumstances.
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My fee for couples therapy is $300 per 50-minute session.
If the full fee feels outside your current budget, I offer a limited number of reduced-fee spaces on a case-by-case basis. Reduced fees begin at $195.
I am an out-of-network provider and do not bill insurance directly. If your insurance plan offers out-of-network mental health benefits, I can provide a superbill for you to submit to your insurance company for possible reimbursement.
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My MFT license limits me to working with couples who reside in California. If you're outside the state and would like to work together, reach out and we can discuss whether a coaching relationship might be a feasible alternative.