Couples Counseling
Couples therapy, marriage counseling and support for business partners
For when staying connected feels harder than it should
You love each other.
That part isn't really in question. What brings you here is something more specific — a pattern you keep returning to, a wall you keep hitting, a distance that grows even when you're trying to close it. You've had the same fight enough times to know how it ends. And yet something in both of you keeps reaching toward the possibility of something better.
That reaching matters. It's where the work begins.
Most couples arrive in therapy having already tried to fix things on their own. You've talked, you've compromised, you've read the books on communication. And still, something isn't shifting. That's often because the real difficulty isn't what it appears to be on the surface. The argument about dishes, about money, about how much time you spend together — these are rarely just about dishes, money, or time. They are the surface expression of something deeper: two people, each carrying their own history, their own attachment wounds, their own unconscious expectations of what love is supposed to feel like — and those inner worlds colliding in ways neither of you fully understands yet.
This is not about assigning blame or deciding who is right. It is about understanding what is happening beneath the surface — and creating room for something more honest, more spacious, and more genuinely yours to emerge.
I have experience working with couples navigating:
Growing distance, disconnection, or a sense of living parallel lives
Ruptures of trust — emotional affairs, infidelity, or patterns of betrayal
Intimacy difficulties — emotional, physical, or both
The ways each partner's individual history quietly shapes the relationship
Communication that keeps breaking down despite genuine effort
Differing needs around closeness, space, and dependency
Major life transitions — parenthood, career change, relocation, loss
Pre-marital work and conscious relationship building
Questions about whether to stay or go — explored with care and without pressure
Sexual concerns and evolving desires within long-term partnership
Co-founders, business partners, and creative collaborators navigating complex relational dynamics
WHAT TO EXPECT
When it comes to couples therapy and marriage counseling, my approach is rooted in the belief that there is no singular or "correct" way to be in relationship. What matters most is whether the relationship works for you—both of you. That may sound simple, but in reality, it often isn’t. Relationships are shaped by so many forces including different life experiences, communication styles, attachment histories, cultural backgrounds, and evolving needs. What once felt easy and intuitive may now feel strained or confusing.
That’s where I come in.
Together, we’ll take a closer look at the relational patterns that may be causing frustration or disconnection. My role is to help you and your partner make sense of what’s happening beneath the surface—what’s being communicated through silence, conflict, or distance—and create space for a more thoughtful, meaningful way of relating. With curiosity, respect, and care, we’ll work to understand each partner’s internal world, while exploring how those worlds come together in the relationship.
My work is LGBTQIA+ affirming, poly-friendly, and open to all forms of partnering. I also welcome non-romantic dyads such as co-founders, creative collaborators, and long-time friends, who are navigating complex dynamics. All of our work is grounded in a deep respect for the ways your social, cultural, and economic contexts shape who you are and how you relate. Therapy is not about assigning blame, rather it’s about finding new ways forward, together.
01 Feel it Out
Once you complete the form below, I'll reach out to schedule a free 15–20 minute consultation call. One or both of you are welcome on this call. It's a chance for us to connect, talk about what's bringing you in, and get a sense of whether working together feels like the right fit. I welcome any questions you may have.
02 Get started
Our initial 50-minute session is a space for all of us to get to know each other. We'll explore what's bringing you both in, begin to get a sense of each partner's inner world, and start to map the relational patterns at play. We'll also agree on a fee, session frequency, and a consistent meeting time.
03 Dive In
Couples work unfolds gradually and thoughtfully. If we choose to continue, we'll enter into a committed process of meeting regularly — exploring not just the relationship, but each person within it. Over time, this work creates room for deeper understanding, more honest communication, and a connection that feels more grounded and more chosen.
If you are interested in working together, please click the button below to complete the contact form and I will be in touch:
FAQ
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Absolutely. Couples therapy is not always about keeping two people together — it's about helping each person understand what they want and need, and making whatever decision comes next from a more conscious, grounded place. If the work leads toward separation, we can navigate that process thoughtfully too, with care for both partners.
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Yes. While couples work is most effective when both partners are present, individual therapy that focuses on relational patterns can be enormously valuable — and sometimes shifts things in ways that open the door for couples work later. Reach out and we can talk about what makes sense for your situation.
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I currently offer both in-person and virtual therapy (California + worldwide). My office is located in downtown San Luis Obispo, CA. For virtual therapy, I use a secure videoconferencing platform and your confidentiality will be held in the utmost regard.
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My standard rate for couples therapy is $300 per session. I recognize that financial circumstances vary and I'm open to discussing a fee that feels sustainable for both of you. The lowest I currently slide is $195. If you'd like to discuss sliding scale options, please reach out and we can explore what feels fair and feasible.
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The initial consultation is a short conversation with whichever partner reached out to determine if I can be of help to the relationship. This is also your opportunity to ask me questions and get a sense of my style of working. If you have any hesitations about starting therapy, let me know and we can talk about it. Additionally, we will also discuss logistics such as the fee and frequency of sessions. If we decide that we would like to move forward, we will schedule a time consistent time for us to begin our work together. If not, I am happy to offer referrals to others who may be a better fit.
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The first handful of sessions are all about determining if we are a good fit and how I may best support both of your goals. In couples therapy, it is not only important that the three of us are a good match but that I am also a good match for the relationship. In these first few sessions you will have the time, space and opportunity to tell me about yourselves and what has brought you to therapy. We will think together about the issues you are seeking support for and create a mutual agreement on the purpose of our therapy, as well as how we’re going to achieve that purpose. We will collaborate in order to find the best way for us to work together.
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Every session, and every couple, is different.
However, what I will say is that during our time together you will be encouraged to speak your mind freely and I will help you think about the underlying meaning behind the thoughts and feelings. Nothing is off topic.
Together we will decide the pace, the direction and the structure that feels most conducive to the goals we have created in the beginning.
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I do not participate in any health insurance networks or submit insurance claims. This is for confidentiality, sustainability and autonomy purposes. However, I am happy to offer you a monthly super bill for you to submit to your insurance company if your policy provides out-of-network coverage.
Typically for couples therapy, one individual will be the "identified patient" and you will be billed for "Family Therapy, conjoint psychotherapy with the patient present." We can discuss more about what this means in our initial consultation.
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My MFT license limits me to working with couples who reside in California. If you're outside the state and would like to work together, reach out and we can discuss whether a coaching relationship might be a feasible alternative.